Baltimore Is Too “Cliqued” Up To Have Supporters

“If we create a group of strong individuals who’ll support each other, then we’ll create a power house of people that will exceed all expectations. We’ll change this city for the better,” says every person who forms a group full of talented people, expecting it’ll change the turn out of their shows. Womp Womp!

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Too many people have this philosophy but in Baltimore it does not work. Content is key. Content is what brings people to an artist’s show! When was the last time you’ve decided to go to Kanye show because he had a power group with him there? The Jay-Z and Kanye power house was damn near three years ago. He’s currently standing alone. People go because of the content of his show.

I recently read an article from Baltimore Blogger Malika Muhummad titled “Why Baltimore Artist Can’t Make A Deal.” Malika talks of how many Baltimore artist lack originality. Why strive to be the next Lil Wayne when artists should be working to make a name for themselves? They should be striving to be unique. She also talks of how people should seek opportunities in the city that allows them to give support. There are multiple open mic events that happen throughout the city all days of the week. There are very few supporters of these events. She goes on to name a few examples. I’ve actually been to a number of 5 Seasons open mic nights, which is one of the example that she gives, and the crowd was dry each time I went, meaning there could have been more people there but it wasn’t. Majority of the crowd were artists waiting for their opportunity to have their shine on the stage.

What I see in Baltimore is a sign of doubt from the people artists hope would support them. Listeners in Baltimore doubt if an artist will bring what they enjoy so they stick to what they know. What they know is what they hear everyday, 24/7, on mainstream media. If a person was to listen to 92Q for the entire day, they’d hear the same 10-15 songs, minus the 12 O’Clock Rewind and the occasional rap songs they play on Rap Attack. Do people ever get tired of that?

When it comes to the individuals who claim they don’t listen to the radio or mainstream music, they continue to support people who have a larger followership than the artists from their hometown. Those artists are clearly closer to mainstream radio than ever. Take the Weeknd, four years ago we would have never heard him being played on the radio. Since Drake featured him on “The Crew,” the Weeknd’s spotlight has been heightened. We hear of him more because of the major support people had for him after that song, seeking his music wherever they could find it and going to his shows. Baltimore artists could have the same happen for them if their supporters became educated listeners. If they’d realized how supporting good content produced here can make talented people from Baltimore be heard on the radio, it’d be a greater selection of music to listen to.

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But how I see it is it all begins with the content creators and their attitudes towards this city. Baltimore artists need an opportunity to come together in support of each other first. They need to realize they’re all thinking the same. They must show each other that the outcome doesn’t always have to be the same way. If your purpose is to create a city who supports each other, live by it. Building a crew that supports only the people in that crew, shows selective treatment for that group, not for the city. That clique way of thinking will not work for Baltimore. It may work for other places but not with the unique listeners of this city. It’s better if we seek opportunities to help one another because on-lookers will see what we’re doing and want to be apart of it.

This is a message for every artist for all genres to hear. We must seek out those who deserve support and help them because it’s the only way to gain what this city needs; Artist for artist, blogger for blogger, or poet for poet. Then it should turn into blogger for artist, artist for poet, and poet for blogger. Etc., Etc.. Each time a creator finds someone making a difference in this city, they’ll feel enlightened to be apart of it and that exact feeling will bring in more supporters and a bigger audience for everyone. It won’t be easy, but nothing is that’s worth trying.

With everything being said, let’s stop this clique mess and build upon a new Baltimore city.

To read Malika’s “Why Baltimore Artist Can’t Make A Deal,” click here. To hear great music from Baltimore artist, check out Vivid Visions or AmirahRashidah. Both blog sites take submissions.

If you’re looking to be a music highlight on Doc’s Castle Media, send me stuff. Let’s change the city for the better.

Will Blacks Have To Wait Another 100 Years?

I rarely write creative pieces. I leave that up to my fellow writer C. Davis. But something came over me last night that made me want to write a creative essay expressing thoughts I know lots of people may be having with the verdicts of the Michael Dunn and Jordan Davis case. So I just ran with my pen last night…

With all of these important court cases going on that are potentially racial profiling cases, I’m becoming discouraged about the stance of my black american race. When will we truly be considered equal? Will it take another 100 years of mistreatment to finally get what we deserve?

Two hundred years ago, we celebrated the freedom from the chains of slavery. One hundred years ago, we scream for joy because of our civil rights becoming intact. But must we still fight for what we deserve? Blacks do not have it easy, and if you are not black you will NEVER understand. I’m not just another black person screaming for attention. I am not using my race as a crutch!

They wine because we are still “bickering” over things we STILL do not have. We have no justice! We have no rights to live a smooth, judge-free life years after this law of equality was so-called “blessed” into every black man and woman’s life. It’s sad to think that sometimes I’m glad I don’t have children because if I had them, I wouldn’t want them to experience the awakening truth I’ve experienced when I realized that even in 2014 where we see beautiful black people earn money in professions that we once were unable to have grace our presence in times of extreme hardship, we still cannot live without someone yelling ignorant slander accusing us as being something we are not. “Oh, because he has dreads and gloats after he accomplishes his dream, he must be a thug.” Ignorance!

And where are our Martin Luther King Jr.’s? Where are our Malcolm X’s? They seise to exist in my time though we clearly need them today. Where are our black men and women that’ll lead the way for change? We do not have them. All of these beautiful black celebrities and we don’t have leaders.

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Because I am black, it does not mean I’m dumb, I’m useless, I’m unable to achieve. My eagerness to strive has nothing to do with the color that appears on me! Because I’m black, it does not me I’m a hoodrat, I’m ghetto, I’m doing nothing but clubbing every weekend like my life depended on it. Matter of fact, just the other day I saw a white woman doing it. I bet they can’t explain that. But I swear they’d say she’s sick or find another excuse to justify that bitch. This world is sick!

I don’t want to turn it around or play the blame game. If we were all blind, it would not matter one bit. From my knowledge, there are instances about life where race has no discrimination, like love or hate, pain or pleasure, life or death. So why do we bicker like we’re better than the other. We need outlining factors to unite us. Even cancer pulls us together in times of despair. Why must that be our cause? Equality should be enough. Instead, we bully each other and look down upon the kids who do it in schools. Everyone needs a punishment. We’re all bullies! We’re all fools!

Change, and I mean the real kind, is what we need. But it’ll take another 100 years to get it.

Read last week’s creative juices submission, Carmone Salome by Taylor Evans.

Relating to Relationships 1: When You’re Meant To Be Married…

Are you pondering the same question that I’ve been questioning myself since the beginning of last year? At this point of our lives, we should have all taken the moment to analyze our current relationships. I mean, we aren’t getting any younger. I’m turning 23 soon!  If we’re seeking to be married sometime in our future, shouldn’t we be more serious about how we choose our partners?

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I’ve thought of all my relationships throughout my life and I really wonder where I’m headed. Am I the only one who thinks that I’ve never progressed to a love life worth taking to marriage? I don’t want to seem like I’m worried about the wrong things. But I’ve been analyzing my relationships so much lately that it’s gotten to the point that I choose to not think about it after certain periods of the day. I’m looking forward to starting a career, a life, and a family soon. But with the dudes I’ve been dealing with my entire life, I’ve never met anyone I felt is worthy of husband title. I’ve even found myself questioning is there a such thing as true love anymore with this country’s divorce rate being ridiculously high? Is true love even real?

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I’m certain I’m not the only person feeling this way because there are many people in the same boat as me, especially on these social media sites we so often post on. We’re all trying to figure out what’s the perfect love. We’re all hoping to find the perfect companion who’ll whisk us away to our future. If you’re not looking for that, you’re fooling yourself because everyone wants to feel loved.

I wanted to write a blog dedicated to addressing the question, “Am I meant to be married?” On Seth Adam Smith’s personal blog-site, he recently addressed that question. He talked of when he questioned marrying his wife. Seth expressed at one point of his engagement to his wife he felt unsure if he was meant to be married because he was unsure if she was right for him. When he asked his father about his feelings towards the subject, his father immediately told him he was being selfish about how he chooses to marry someone.

In Seth’s article, we’re told that when searching to marry someone, you’re not choosing to marry for yourself. You’re choosing to marry for the person you’re marrying, other people around you, and people who’ll be in your future. Seth, in his article, makes it seem like love and marriage isn’t meant for you at all. Though it sounds pretty crazy for someone to say love isn’t meant for you and it’s for who you want to marry, I agree with the guy. But I don’t like it and I’m going to say why I cannot understand how this plays out this way in the real world, though it will always be this way.

  • I’m simply selfish.
    I really don’t understand how to know if someone’s for me because I’m selfish just like Seth. There are times when I don’t want to sacrifice. I haven’t found a person to sacrifice for. Is sacrifice a two way streak? Are we suppose to both sacrifice for each other, or will it work like if I truly love someone, I won’t be looking for favors? I’m the type that searches for equality. If my partner isn’t offering the same as me, why are we even talking? See, I’m selfish.
  • Love is already hard to define.
    How do you know what true love is when you’re loving so many people differently? The love you have for your mother, best friend, and boyfriend are all so different. Do I based the love from my boyfriend as love similar to my best friend? I know my best friend would jump in front of a bullet for me. She’d literally risk her life for me. Would I use instances like that as a basis for understanding true love from my soulmate?
  • So is Seth’s dad saying that anyone who’s cool with my family and friends is who I ultimately could be happy with?
    That’s some bs! I’ve met people that have long term relationships with others and their family can’t stand who they’re with. So marrying someone for the sack of your family is absurd. There’s no selfishness in that at all! You’ve basically given your marriage away if you base your marriage on that.
  • What about that fire bond you have for someone?
    Do we just ignore that type of love? Does it exist? Does it not? I mean it has to exist for those people who stay married for years. Did that feeling develop over time or was it there from the start? I guess that feeling is something that helps people choose when to not to be selfish.

You must be selfless to truly love someone.

I did not come across all these statements alone but with the help of others while questioning them about how they viewed love. As I asked people if they believe they must be selfless in order to love someone, I found that those who answered yes understood how love operates. Those very few people also had long lasting relationships at some point in their lives. I’m not saying that people who don’t believe in the statement, don’t have lasting relationships. I’m actually asking if it doesn’t, how do you stay committed to someone so long if you don’t believe it?

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Love absolutely requires sacrifice for someone else but that sacrifice is for your soulmate, no one else is included in that except GOD. So the only thing I’m not agreeing with in Seth’s article is what his dad states about it being for his surrounding family. Marriage is not for the people around me. It’s for my husband, myself, and God. If God blesses me with someone special, I’ll know because he’ll put God first. That’s how you’ll know if you’re meant for marriage. If someone puts God first, they’ll care about their future, people around them, and whoever they’re going to marry. You’re really marrying for God because with him, you experience love. He gives you the experience of selflessness and that’s what’s needed for sacrifice. Sacrifice is what’s needed for an outstanding love. So to put it in simpler terms, when you seek God, knowing if your meant for marriage will eventually reveal itself. In my case, I’m still building on that. I’m still selfish. But I’m halfway there if I can sit here and write this for you to read. If you understand, you’re almost there too.

Seek God and it’ll come! Would you agree? Leave your comments below.

To read my last opinion essay, see What I Really Learned While In College on Doc’s Castle Media.

What’s Your Mental Age? Does It Matter?

What I find to be a common phrase for many people who date outside their age bracket is the fact those people commonly say, “Age ain’t nothing but a number.” Well, it’s true. Have you ever had a moment when you felt like you out grew someone that was doing something you thought was childish but was the same age as you? You were experiencing something I refer to as the “Mental Age Gap.” Everyone goes through it.

The Mental Age Gap happens to everyone. It may even begin in elementary school. For example, If you take the time to watch some kids as they interact in their everyday lives, you’ll notice a child’s mental age gap when you see someone at the age of ten participate in more mature activities, like starting a dance group or writing a book. Those are extensive activities for a child to start. It exhibits leadership and that trait requires some level of mature to take on.

Age means nothing unless authority has some rule over a person’s life. It means someone placed a number on another person to categorize them for activities they can or cannot do. But in reality, without a system of numbers or age, everyone would be equal and literally able to do whatever, whenever they wanted. I’m not saying age is a problem because we do need it for medical cases. I wouldn’t want to say a 6 years old is able to drink vodka without experiencing severe consequences. I’m saying in a matter of interaction with others, a person should be able to meet anyone, no matter the age, and that person can leave a lasting impression without another passing judgment. We aren’t capable of knowing what another is able to do.

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Also I wanted to share a link, which is circulating on Facebook more frequently, that gives you the option to check how old you are mentally. I can’t say this is accurate, but it’s fun to do in your spare time. The app said my mental age is 28. I’m really 22 years old. But I commonly get mistaken for 26 or 28, and my results made me chuckle inside because the computer thinks it, too. It could help you understand your current priorities, whether they be good or bad.

Check out www.whatsyourmentalage.com.

Sorry, Tyler Johnson, Victim of Columbia Mall Shooting.

This past Saturday at Columbia Mall in Columbia, MD, there was another mass shooting that followed a week of violent behavior in numerous universities around the nation. These shootings are becoming more and more ridiculous. They’re senseless and I will never understand why someone like Dorien Marcus Aguilar, the gunman who killed 3 victims in the fatal mall shooting, would result in killing someone because of built up sadness within. Counseling should be given free to everyone, courtesy of the federal government because there are too many teens who need help, and we’re not paying much attention to them.

One of the victims in this shooting was Tyler Johnson. I chose to write about Tyler because he taught me a lesson. I did not know him very well. In fact, I didn’t know him at all. But the week before the shooting, I saw Tyler at Zumies while I was shopping with two of my friends. He said hi to me. But the cruelness within my heart that day didn’t allow me to speak back. I actually was rude to Tyler, ignoring him each time he spoke. He said goodbye to me as I left the store, as well. I continued to walk out without saying nothing back, though I heard him. When I left Zumies, there was a feeling inside of me that made me feel terrible for not saying something, as a simple hello, to him. But I shrugged it off and went about my week as normal.

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There’s a reason why I remembered Tyler’s face and that incident after seeing him only one time in my entire life. I believe it was to look at myself to see what I really am, a rude senseless individual, too. The only thing that made me different from the person who shot Tyler last Saturday was I did not shoot him. I never spoke and now I feel bad for being that rude person who walked in the store that day.

I wanted to publicly acknowledge the lesson I’ve learned through Tyler Johnson. There is no excuse to inflict how you feel inside onto someone else. I could’ve had a bad day when I saw Tyler, but that didn’t mean I could push my pain onto him. He didn’t know. He did not deserve that treatment from Dorien or me.

Though I know Tyler isn’t around anymore to see this apology, my condolences goes to his family and friends during this difficult time. My prayers are with them along with the other victim’s, Brianna Benlolo, family and friends. It’s a tough world we live in. I can only hope, as a human race, we can all become better to cure its cruelness.

Relating to Relationships

If you follow me on Twitter or Liked the Doc’s Castle Media Facebook page, you’d know that I’ll be writing a 6 month series of blogs addressing commonly asked relationship questions. Yay!

In December, I asked my followers what they believed were the most frequently asked questions that people had about intimate relationships. I received quite a response. Love seems a little tricky and many of you guys come off as clueless when dealing with it. I see it as a challenging part of life myself. But your questions are worth looking into so each month I’ll tackle your questions with my opinions. This should be interesting.

Starting at the end of January, I’ll answer question number 1, Why Do People Cheat, then we’ll move from there. How does that sound?

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If anyone has a question they think should be added to the 6 month series, don’t hesitate to ask. Comment with you questions below to enter it in my review bucket and stay tuned to hear my thoughts. I’m sure many people will have the same or a similar question as yours. It’ll be highly likely I’ll write about it. In the meantime, keep reading.

What I Really Learned While In College

Today is my lucky day, my special day, a day I will forever remember! Today is my graduation day! I, Taylor Walker A.K.A. Doc, is officially an alumna of University of Baltimore. Not, UMBC! I’m a graduate of UB. I am leaving this school with a Bachelors of Science in Corporate Communications. Man, am I proud of myself.

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I don’t think many people understand how hard it was to get through college. It was not easy, especially when majority of the lessons that are learned and will stick with you throughout your entire life, aren’t even school related. These are lessons to help you grow into a brighter and much smarter adult. What I’m saying is that I’ve learned how to become an adult more than learning how to actually market an idea or commnicated for the media, which was what I came to school for in the first place. Attending college was nothing like I expected.

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I wanted to highlight four of the most important lessons I’ve learned while attending University of Baltimore. Here are my favorite:

Lesson One: It’s better to ignore negative people than to continue to prove that you’re correct when in a dispute about something very useless in arguing about.

I cannot stress this statement enough! During my freshman and sophomore year of attending UB, I had to learn the hard way. Two instances taught me this lesson but I’ll speak about one. I hung out with a group of friends. We had disputes quite a bit. A lot of those disagreements could have been rumors. I don’t understand why I felt the need to explain or defend myself when dealing with issues in that group. But I know that every time I chose to argue with whoever I was disagreeing with (and I disagreed with everyone in the entire group at least once), it never came out in my favor. Like I was the predestined enemy, I would never win. It actually got to the point where the entire group turned against me. I wasn’t anyone’s friend by the time I started my junior year. By going through my trials with them, I learned friendship offers compromise. No matter how much I reached out to someone to mend, compromise was never accomplished. I was fine with it, too. I don’t have to be anyone’s friend if they don’t want to accept apologies or seek to move pass useless grudges. 

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We would argue over childish things. It wasn’t until I realized that my word didn’t matter, whether we were cool or not. I decided to move on from that group of friends and the childish things we were arguing about. Afterwards, I made a promise to myself that I’d never be in a situation like that again. I wanted be positive so I made the choice to put all that energy into starting Doc’s Castle Media. I’m really glad that I went through all those problems with those “friends” because all that stress made me turn my anger into something worth my wild. Now I can say to any of those “friends”  if they’re reading, thank you for helping me become better than what I use to be.

Lesson Two: School only teaches you the formula for how to do something. It doesn’t mean you know how to do it.

Like for real, this is a very important one. Majority of the academic lessons I supposedly should’ve learned in my major classes, I already knew from being prepared by a team of awesome teachers at Milford Mill Academy. Seriously, I literally question the purpose of taking up corporate communications as a major sometimes. I don’t want to take all the credit away from UB but the only stuff I can recall learning are from my general education classes because those classes taught me something I was far from interested in studying. Like in my African History class, I learned a lot about different African cultures that most Americans don’t take the time to learn about because of excessive exposure to stereotypes. I’m very appreciative for taking that class. But that wasn’t my plan. It was thrown on my schedule. Another class I could give credit to is my graphic design class. I knew nothing of it. So it was worth taking.

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I learned more from my internships and volunteering for small businesses around Baltimore City than sitting in class. Working for multiple companies taught me the life of a professional corporate employee. I was taught through experience how to navigate the business world. I took it upon myself to value what I could be taught through first person encounters. I’ve gained so much wisdom and I loved every second of each opportunity that was given to me. I can’t wait to apply my new skills to whatever job that hires me!

Lesson Three: In many cases it’s not about what you know, it’s who you know. But what you know definitely gives a little push.

While working at all of those internships and volunteer opportunities, I met some very important people who led me to more important people. Their recommendation pushed me further along with my dedication and hard work. I guess, because I worked so well with them, they wanted to see me do better. I was never lazy when it came to learning from my opportunities so I know my dedication gave me that extra push. My drive meant something to those people I’ve worked for in order for them to recommend me to others. I would never say it was solely their word that opened doors for me. But when it comes to applying to jobs, I find myself seeking to build relationships and not only submitting an application. I do this while continuing to show how dedicated and hard worker I am. Relationships are very important. But that extra push shows credibility.

Lesson Four: Love can wait.

This is a more recent lesson I’ve learned that I feel may have to be a separate blog for me to expand more on. Love is too complicated sometimes at such an early point in anyone’s life. It’s definitely something a person shouldn’t draw a conclusion on if they’re uncertain of the love for their self. I’ve spent so much time with my attention on so many guys that I thought they loved me when I should have spent that time loving myself. Instead of seeking satisfaction from them, I could have read an entertaining book. A lot of those emotional roller coasters I put myself through could have been avoided. Trial and error taught me it wasn’t worth it in the end. I don’t have to add their sadness and unwillingness to be happy into my life to ultimately bring me down with them. Gah!

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I’m way ahead of a lot of people who I tried to drag along with me. I can’t bring people with me who don’t want to willingly come, or I can’t want better for someone who doesn’t want to improve on their own. I learned to let things go. You can’t force anything! What’s meant to be, will happen so I’m free, I guess. I’m single and not ready to mingle at all. I talk to no one and I’m not lonely. I’m really happy. If a guy wants to join in with my happiness, he’ll have to prove that he’s not trying to force love for himself either. If he is, I’ll see straight pass his phoniness and push him away to keep myself content. I’m over being pushy LOL.

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Mmm, check out my graduation cake in honor of Doc’s Castle Media!

With all these lessons, I’ve become humble and grateful for making mistakes. I’m not afraid of what’s next. But I do wonder why college molded me into this more than taught me marketing or communication. Oh well, it’s over! Amen to that!